Overcoming Infidelity – Being Told The Shocking News
Where were you on September 11, 2011? Where were you when you first found out that you have been cheated on? Society has compared big events in our life time to where were you when they happened! Odds are very good it is eternally engraved in your brain the exact location of where you were located when you received news that would change your life forever; your partner is having an affair. So it feasible and the real question is how to get over an affair?
Taking a look at what we learned from the events of September 11, 2011 could be a good roadmap as to what needs to be done in the aftermath of your affair. After September 11, 2011 the country fundamentally shut down and went into a time of mourning. A period of mourning is highly recommended for you at this time, you may need a few days off to digest this devastating news and process your tactic as to the next steps in this relationship. This is not a time to make big decisions or to execute any decisions. It is a time for you to be by yourself and decide what your next steps may be! It is a period of time to go over steps and your options to point you in the right direction after considering several situations in your mind that will be the best for your future.
After a couple of days or weeks have gone by and you are ready to make your move in this heartfelt game of chess, you need to make a decision whether to stay in this relationship or to take a new path. The storm has subsided and it’s time to get back to work, back to life. Yes the discomfort inside your soul will take months if not years to get rid of, no matter what decision you make. If you do come to a decision to reconcile your partner needs to be aware that this is something they are going to have to deal with as well, the memories!
After 911 we decided to go to war, and you need to psychologically prepare yourself to go to war. Ending the relationship will either be civil or end up as a nonstop barrage of events, messages, and unwanted visits by your ex partner wanting reconciliation. On the other hand if you reconcile the interest shifts to controlling the other partner, feelings of resentment, and two individuals miles apart trying to spark a relationship torn apart by infidelity. Trust is gone and the road ahead will be difficult no matter what fork in the road you decide to take or rebuild trust after an affair.
If you make a decision to split and there has been no attempt at reconciliation this will be another of your initial internal battles. Chances are the cheating party has either felt they have done too much for your forgiveness or they are back with the third party in this relationship. The decision you have made is painful and the actions of your former companion are that much more excruciating. Believe in yourself and believe there is better out there for you, also believe that you are not the first to be shoved aside by your ex-partner they have had other lovers and it may surprise you how those relationships ended. That being said you can find better and will this should give you inner peace and the power you need to fight another day and make it through this ugly time in your life.
